by luddite lady on 16 Jan 2012 04:35
[quote="sockii"]No one is saying being a father or older person means you can't be sexually desirable. Far be it (or at least, I sure as hell hope so.)
But some people ARE saying that blatantly, explicitly graphic, sexual talk on a public official forum that goes beyond fun innuendo and fannish drooling doesn't sit well with some folks here. Even those folks who have no problem being bawdy and irreverent, within a certain degree of decorum.[/quote]
Thanks for articulating that, sockii. It's not an age thing; it's the father/husband thing. I met Stewart every so briefly in Dallas. But more importantly, from where I sat during the Gamelan D'Drum concert, I ha ppened to have a clear view of Stewart and Fiona (his wife) as they watched the concert together. (I wasn't being a creeper; I just enjoyed glancing over in their direction every now and then to catch Stewart's reaction to the performance of his fabulous music.) So when someone speaks of Stewart as a husband, I have very concrete understanding of it by way of the mental image I hold of he and his wife at that concert.
Secondly, I had the great pleasure of meeting Jordan Copeland, Stewart's son in his twenties, when his band played Toronto. We talked a fair bit, and I have to say a nicer, more gracious guy would be hard to find. In fact, I complimented Stewart here for having raised such a fine young man. So, the Stewart as father thing is pretty real to me, too.
Nonetheless, these are MY experiences from which I draw MY idea of what crosses the line. It is not fair to judge someone based on criteria drawn from experiences they have not shared. If we all keep that rule of thumb in mind in this pluristic place we like to Copelandia, I think there would be a lot less hurt feelings and a lot less drama. (If we want the fun of drama without any new pain, we should just keep digging up those old threads. We got a ton of 'em.)
In Dallas, the only game that really mattered was in the word gamelan.