by Kalypso on 21 Aug 2007 04:59
EL, I feel the need to intellectualize here. My brains are getting the better of me....
Hmmm...let me explain you why the concept of groupie is not one I personally like.
WARNING: LONG. Don't read if you're not interested.
DISCLAIMER: I am speaking for myself, and no one else.
I think nothing good can come of groupieing. I mean in the real sense.
Groupie is just sex, and you can have sex with anybody and not give a damn about the guy, or find out his worst, or your worst side?
Groupies don't get a thought, a little love or respect. Groupies get STDs and tacks on their belts. In the best of cases, a plaster caster.
So-called groupies are objectified caricatures of women. It's a humiliating condition. There have been famous ones who made a career and money out of it. Maybe they had all the fun they say they had. I doubt it. There must have been a good dose of humiliation, of degradation, of being discarded when new flesh came on the scene.
I have read too much about rock and roll lifestyle to not get totally repulsed by the concept. I have, a long time ago, met a couple of persons who have actually had the experience. Not fun. They were still bitter about it.
Having said that, you know I am by no means a prude.
Fantasies, YES. They're healthy. Everyone has them. They help your relationship. They make you "creative".
In reality, you know you are not going to jump on the object of your desire. You're going to be tongue-tied and in awe. Because you RESPECT the person, ADMIRE the person, LOVE the person. You don't want just to jump his bones (maybe this is different for a man). It's weird, sometimes you want to actually understand why him. Why he had this impact on your life.
FYI, I have taken Valium tonight. This is me on Valium.
"Loa-ded, and ready for a-ction! [wink]"